In this four-part series, I’ll be taking you on a journey about the four ways to become your genuine self.
Part One: Self-Awareness
What is self-awareness? Dictionary version says having knowledge or being conscious. To me, it is the mirror looking into your inner self. It’s about realizing who you are.
Self-awareness requires a very heavy dose of honesty. You have to start that honest conversation with yourself about who you really are. And that’s not easy! Some people are very self-aware (like me!) and others are just completely unaware. Within that spirit of honesty, you just have to hold yourself accountable. WHEW. For example, I know that I am a very sensitive and emotional person. I’m also passionate and very loyal. Although it is great to be a sensitive person who is in tune with her feelings, it’s also a detriment. I let things get to me. My feelings can be easily hurt. I can misinterpret something and then boom! *cue the Take Care album by Drake* Or I expect people to treat me the same way I treat them. In turn, I still get hurt because I projected my loyalty and my passion on to someone else. That’s not okay.
Do the Work
Alright, so you’ve held the mirror up to yourself. You acknowledged who you are and now your eyes are wide open. You may be scared. You may be a little disappointed. So what are you going to do?
First, you have to be gentle with yourself (we’ll discuss this in part two). You are now aware, but that does not mean you have to attack yourself.
Second, you have to work on yourself every day. Notice when you are becoming or reverting back to a way that is not conducive to your growth. You also have to realize that you are not going to get it right every time. However, the more you acknowledge that it’s happening, the better the outcome towards your growth. For me, whenever a situation arises that is negative, I try to see how I react to it. I know that I can act strictly off of emotion. I know that I don’t want to act emotionally. I want to act logically. I will take a step back. I will become quiet and really listen to what is happening. If I’m wrong in the situation, I can certainly acknowledge it and try to recover from it. Ultimately, I do not want to become a raging bull behind it.
Lastly, if you cannot do the work alone there are many other resources that are available to help you out. Some examples are talking to a person that is non-biased, like a therapist or a friend. You can also write down exactly how everything happened and read it back to yourself on two occasions: immediately after writing and one year after it happened. This has helped me tremendously because I can feel and see the growth I’ve obtained in a year’s time.
Are you aware of who you are? What is it that you like or dislike? Use these talking points with yourself as you walk through this journey of self-awareness. In part two, we’ll talk about self-criticism.
See you soon!